On the surface, Jesus' words may seem harsh. After describing a three-step process for reconciling with a brother or sister who has gone astray, He says that if they still refuse to listen, they are to be treated "as a Gentile or a tax collector." It can sound as though Jesus is giving us permission to exclude people or give up on them. But then we remember how Jesus actually treated Gentiles and tax collectors. These were the very people He sought out. He shared meals with them, listened to them, healed them, and went out of His way to welcome them when others kept their distance. As He Himself explained, He came not for the healthy but for the sick. And so what seems at first like a license to ostracize becomes a call to seek out, with even greater patience, prayer, and love, those who seem furthest away.
St. Paul says we owe one another the debt of love. Any correction we offer must be rooted in that love, not in pride, anger, or a desire to judge. After all, this is what we hope others will offer us when we are in the wrong. Loving our neighbour is not easy. Relationships can be messy because people are messy. We all carry wounds, assumptions, and blind spots, and we inevitably bring them into our relationships. The image of Ezekiel the watchman reminds us that we are responsible for one another. Sometimes love means having a difficult conversation we would rather avoid. It means speaking the truth with charity, receiving it with humility, and allowing God to guide us when we wander. The goal is always to help one another draw closer to God.
PONDER IN GOD’S PRESENCE:
Do I approach others with the patience and mercy I hope to receive when I need correction myself?